One of those defriending posts

[exsequar]

So for the first time in a long time, I'm doing some flist trimming. I think it's a bad sign when I view reading my flist as an obligation, I'm reading it on filters, and when I leave it for a day, the two big filters get to skip=200... each. It's just this huge burden, so I'm lightening it a little. Some decisions were easy, some were harder, and I'm likely to be doing a bit more trimming in the near future. I do apologize if I've hurt anyone's feelings, but the sad truth is that I have a horrible memory, and in this context it's even worse. There are people who changed their names a year ago and I still have not fully made the mental connection with the old name. There are way too many people whose basic lives just elude me - where do you live? How old are you? Are you married? Have kids? Are you in school? These are things you should know about your friends, but in way too many instances I don't. And it's not your fault, it's mine. Obviously. So I think it's rather unfair to keep some of you on my flist when I'm not absorbing anything from your posts. I wish you all the very best. And as usual, feel more than free to defriend me back. There seem to be a million people who have me friended, but I can't imagine any of them are actually reading this journal... so that means they won't see this post. Whatever! Defriend at will, I promise I won't get touchy.

I watched episode 5x10 of Six Feet Under tonight. Not the famously traumatic finale, but fucking traumatic all on its own, thank you. I spent the whole hour crying. So now I'm all quiet and headachey and pensive. I love it when good TV, good storytelling, does that to me. But I think I'm going to go watch a Bones episode to heal.

Comments

[hopelessfangirl.livejournal.com]

Fuck, I bawled all throughout All Alone. That killed me way more than the finale did. All the David/Ruth scenes broke my heart.

[gules]

hi there! i am totally super-fond of you & your posts, but i also totally only comment like once in a blue moon, so i recognize that you are fully justified in defriending me! just, you know. ♥

[munkykiss.livejournal.com]

I just did a friends/comm cut too. there were a lot of journals not used or people I didn't talk to at all anymore and it was a chore and for what? we didn't talk LOL

[angel726.livejournal.com]

I hope I helped a little with your headachey pensive mood! ♥

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

Oh, hi! Ahhh I knew something like this would happen. I just wasn't terribly familiar with your name, but now I totally recognize and remember you! You also don't post very much and since the point was trimming down my flist, there is absolutely no reason to cut you out. I'm so sorry! Re-friending now, with profuse apologies. Please don't hate me! :)

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

Oh my goddddd your icon. FISHER CHILDREN. That scene was one of my favorites, and killed me too. Augh. ;_____;

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

You are a silly lady. ♥

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

Exactly! I have so little time to read my flist that I don't comment most of the time, and it's just a problem all round. I'm hoping this will help it a bit, even though it's hard!

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

You did! Thank you for being there and chatting with me. ♥

[humdrumtown.livejournal.com]

Keeping me? I hope so. I enjoy reading your lj and it is hilarious to me that we tend to simultaneously fall into the same fandoms. I started watching Bones reruns just as you were jumping in, too. Such an excellent show.

Anyways, I LOVED Six Feet Under, particularly that episode. I don't really think HBO has been quite as good since.

[purelyironic.livejournal.com]

I just wanted to let you know that I am reading your journal, even though I don't have the time to comment nearly as often as I would like to. I enjoy reading your posts very much. <3

[toadclubber.livejournal.com]

that's pretty depressing that you defriended me.
i always read your posts.

but i understand.
maybe i post too much. or i don't comment your posts enough.

so this is probably for the best.

i'll stay your friend, though. because i do enjoy your posts.

thank you.

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, I didn't defriend you, but I actually never friended back in the first place. You friended me when I already had a too huge flist, so I wasn't friending many people back. It's nothing personal. You are more than welcome to stick around though - don't feel obligated to comment or anything. I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings. :(

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

Thanks! That's sweet of you. Don't worry about commenting - I'm pretty terrible about it myself. I don't judge people on lack of commenting, I more decide whether I'm actually paying enough attention to their posts to honestly keep them as a friend. Glad you like it around here! :)

[toadclubber.livejournal.com]

LOL!
it's no big deal.

now i just feel like a total and complete ass hole.

for some reason, i thought we were mutual friends . . . i'm not really sure when or how we became friends.



but yea. i'm an idiot, obviously.
so . . . lol. THAT'S THAT!

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

Of course, m'dear! Where are you up to in Bones? I just finished 2x10 and slkjf;sldjkfls;kdjf OH MY GODDDDDD.

Ugh, Six Feet Under. Breaking my heart. I'm bracing myself to watch the last two episodes. :(

[gestaltrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs* you do what you need to do. I am kinda private about my stuff (or at least I try to be) but if you wanna know ask and I will tell.

Either way there would never be hard feelings.

[iamsupernova.livejournal.com]

I'm currently in Belfast. I keep thinking of you, even though it's not Dublin. I'm beginning to see why you love this country so much. It's always been so hard because every time I visited until now has been isolated to my grandparents' old house on the mountain and I never really saw much of the city or the people younger than grandparent-age. And I love the Irish lilt. Belfast accents are awesome.

Also it helps that it's been unusually sunny. Gloomy weather reliably makes ME gloomy, and likewise with sunny.

[exsequar.livejournal.com]

Aw, yay! I'm glad you're loving it. It is my favorite plce in the entire world, as I'm sure you know. :) One of my good friends is from northern Ireland, I loved his accent too!

Wow, still unusually sunny? It was goooorgeous the whole time I was there in May. And it's been gross and grey and rainy here in Connecticut. What the hell! Global warming, you are weird. I'm glad you're getting good weather for your Irish experience though! :)

[hopelessfangirl.livejournal.com]

Ditto. I'm working on a picspam of my favourite fictional siblings, and that scene will definitely be there for the Fishers.

Also the Tams. *HUGS YOUR ICON*

[giventofly37.livejournal.com]

Commenting late because I've been behind on the internet lately...

I know my post-to-comment ratio is kind of horrendous, and I totally understand flist cleaning, but I enjoy you lots. Just...thought I'd put that out there.

[flamingkitten.livejournal.com]

i'm glad i made the cut, i read all of your posts and find it so interesting where we've all ended up after all these years.

if you're ever in europe again i would love to see you. i'll either be in london, where i am now, or the netherlands.